Strange Conversations… Words of Encouragement.

I sit here with tears streaming down my face…

Have you ever been touched by the kindness of a stranger?

Below is an email conversation that I was having with a stranger. I was so touched by his kindness I had to blog about it…

  • Stranger: It’s God’s will in control .xo
  • Me: Yes. God has the ultimate plan. I desire to be a mom, and God promised me at least 1 biological child – so I’m holding him to that promise.
  • Stranger: You’re a warm and friendly woman. Absolutely beautiful too. I will pray for God to show favor. Love them babies. You go girl! God bless!
  • Me: You’re going to make me cry! Amen, I receive that blessing and confirmation! We serve a mighty and awesome God 🙂 I thank you for your kindness. I wish you love and happiness 🙂
  • Stranger: Oh don’t cry sweetheart. If you’re alone don’t be afraid because God certainly has a plan for you. We are to find joy in our suffering. A sure thing He knows what you want. He is by your side alive in you now.
  • Stranger: His will, surely will – bring a beautiful baby into your life and that special man too. Xo.
  • Stranger: With the love I feel from your heart, you’re going to be an amazing mother. I’m praying for you. I won’t stop. God bless you. As for that lucky man somewhere out there, he will realize that he hit lotto with you. Lol

So what was so amazing about this above conversation??? Because, here was a stranger willing to intercede upon my behalf, and why, because he believes in the power of God! I think that’s awesome!

Especially, because recently I have been worrying about the blessings I am waiting on God for! And in the midst of my doubts and wondering, God sends a messenger to remind me that God is ALWAYS in control of all things, has not forgotten me, and intends to make good on all of the things I am still waiting for…

This conversation moved me to listen to Andrae Crouch’s contemporary gospel song “Let the Church Say Amen”. Here are a few lyrics from the song:

When we receive a word from the Lord, our answer should be Amen!

Verse 1: Make this your response, Amen – No matter how you’re feeling (Amen) or how your world is reeling (Amen). Battle on through the night (Amen), because you’re going to win the fight (Amen).

  • Even in the valley (Amen), or standing at your Red Sea (Amen) – continue to say (Amen), because your help is on the way! 
  • All we needed was a word from the Lord, and we got it! (Amen)

Verse 2: When your dreams about to die (Amen), Knowing that God’s not a man (Amen), he just can’t lie (Amen)

  • In spite of what (Amen), what the devil does (Amen), Know you got a word (Amen); that comes from above (Amen)
  • Faith must be (Amen), must be what you say (Amen), so open your mouth (Amen), say Amen today!

I pray that you find encouragement, in whatever you are struggling with and through. Remember that God hears you, sees you, and loves you! In the complete plan, you are blessed and shown favor – you just have to hold on to that promise and keep doing your part!

Go out and be a blessing to someone! You just never know how you might touch them! They may be waiting on that message, as I was. Good thing my stranger decided to share the message God had given him, as it was intended just for me!

Is it truly a Wonderful Life? Learning to Live…

I was going through a rough patch. Life seemed to not be working in my favor. However, during one of my moments of despair, I was told: “your life is wonderful. You have a better life than most”. I was perplexed. What did the speaker see that I couldn’t see? How did we both look at my life and come to vastly different conclusions. You see, he saw potential where I saw a dead-end, and he saw hope where I saw despair. We were both looking at the same Donna, yet it was through very different lenses. Although his comment did not lessen the blows that life had dealt me, it did cause me to reflect a bit.

A few things came to mind: I recalled my mother reminding us, as children, that: “things can always be worse” and my grandmother saying: “you never miss your water till your well runs dry”. So what did these two colloquialisms have in common? They both pointed to the idea of appreciation and taking things for granted.

After pondering for a bit, I realized that it’s so easy to become engrossed in the missteps of life, that we forget all the things that go well. We take for granted that the sun rises every morning. We tend to overlook that our heart remembers to beat and that our lungs choose to take in new oxygen. However, the moment that any of these daily occurrences were to stop, we would crave for the time and chance back to appreciate them. So I have decided to start living more consciously.

In the book, the Untethered Soul, author Michael Singer suggests that conscious living is possible when we have a healthy appreciation of death. He argues that the idea of death helps to remind us to live life. That if we lived life knowing that death is evitable – we’d likely use the time to truly live.

So the lessons that I shall keep in mind:

  • I can appreciate what I have now – I don’t have to wait for it to be taken away in order for me to begin appreciating it
  • There is always something to appreciate about every day, second, or moment of life
  • I should cherish each second as if it were my last, because then I would be focused on living my best life possible
  • I don’t need to wait to get to a certain circumstance, event, or situation – my life begins the moment I start living it!

I have decided to live consciously, will you? Will you make a decision, now, to start living your life and stop waiting to live your life? What will you do, even in a small way, to start making your every day existence – count?

We all struggle… Facing the “down” moments of life…

Life has so many twists and turns. Therefore, the best that you can do is to expect that the unexpected will happen.

Recently, I was in the process of moving. In the midst of the move, I knew I would need to fly out for a speaking engagement. Prior to departing for my conference, I felt pretty confident that I had secured my new home. I boarded my plane and attended my 2-day conference. It was an amazing experience and the icing on the cake was that I did my first, ever, radio interview. I was floating on a cloud, feeling invincible and untouchable. However, when I returned home I was quickly faced with a cold dose of reality.

The deal fell through and I had 7 days to find a new place, as my current lease was ending and I was scheduled to be out of town for another conference. Talk about pressure! In those first few moments after realizing the calamity I was facing, I tried to play out the worse case scenarios… Not having a home became a very scary possibility. I started to bemoan how does one go from being on top of the world to crashing and burning in ashes, in the space of a few hours! I could feel the walls start to close in, as the feelings of defeat started to overwhelm me. I cried out “God YOU HAVE GOT TO DO SOMETHING!”

Then I took a few deep breaths and reminded myself that ups and downs are just a part of life. I also reflected on all of the various struggles that have come before and figured if they could pass, this one would as well.

During my dark moment, I decided to listen to Blessed & Highly Favored by the Clarke sisters. Here is the first verse from their song:

He brought me through hard trials. He brought me through tribulations.

Never let a day go by and not realize, had it not been for the Lord who was on my side.

Back was against the wall, looked out for me. He heard my cry and rescued me.

Never let a day go by and not realize, we are blessed

Don’t take it for granted that we are here today. 

Just know that you’re blessed and highly favored 

Thinking from this perspective helped me to calm down and then I could feel a wave of peace wash over me. God was going to take care of it; that one thought helped to deflate the worry that was swelling within. And, once I decided to stop worrying, I felt freed up to actually do something proactive about the situation.

So there are a couple of lessons that came from this experience:

  • Life is going to happen, that includes the good and the-not-so-good. Be ready to roll with the punches. “Take the bitter with the sweet” without personalizing the bitter. Life isn’t against you, just chalk it up to life is about the (whole) experience.
  • No matter where you are – look around and find the blessings, the things going well, as this will chase away the feelings of despair and lift your mood
  • Don’t be afraid to call out to God – the bible says ask and you shall receive and you have not because you ask not.

New Beginnings

Have you ever sat on the fringes of a breakthrough? In nervous anticipation of the next step that was on the horizon… Well that is where I am… right now, in this very moment. Looking ahead at a transformation that is sure to come… There is so much in the works, that I’m not even sure where to begin.

1) my memoir that is in progress

2) a budding new relationship

3) a newly born private practice

4) my improved physical health and physique

5) my head full of hair (this was not always the case!)

6) several new part-time contracting opportunities

No matter which aspect of my life that I focus on right now – I see new growth EVERYWHERE! It’s amazing, because I once obsessed over the fact that I desired to be a biological mother, by now… However, though I have not yet had a child, new life is cropping up all around me and that feels wonderful. New life in my career, New life in my relationships, and even New life on my head!

“So I decided to take a moment to appreciate the new life that is taking place all around me. To acknowledge the newness that stands before me. And to be thankful for new beginnings” Dr. Donna

 Although newness is refreshing and desired, it can also be scary because there is so much uncertainty. I believe the fear of the unknown is what keeps so many of us stuck. We are afraid to do a new thing. So we allow the familiar to bring us comfort, even when that familiarity means living a life that is lacking, wanting, and limited.

I finally arrived to a place in my life, where I decided to no longer allow fear to be the determining factor. I have made peace with the unfamiliar, trusting that with it comes the beauty of chance, potential, and newfound possibilities.

So you may wonder what has helped me to gain the courage to step out – to open myself up to new things… There have been many steps I’ve taken over the last few years to arrive at this place. However, the 3 most important things that I did, I will describe using the acronym NEW:

N Never give up – never quit. Being persistent and steadfast was indeed a very crucial part of helping me to shed all of the old dead weight so that I could move into this new phase of life. Never accept never… In other words, even when you hear a no – keep going until you get a yes!

E Energize – finding things to renew my energy and my strength was a pivotal piece. My hobbies, my talents, and my faith in God each have helped to restore me when my energy was depleted.

W Wish and Wait without Worry – This last one was the hardest of them all for me… Getting to a place where I continued to wish (have hope) and wait (have patience) for the things I desired without feeling angst and worry that things had not happened yet, was indeed Tough! However, I have learned that finding that place of peace within is an important step in getting one’s heart’s desires.

So I sit here typing my first blog post and reflecting at all of the other new beginnings in my life. It feels great to be at the starting point of this new phase in my life journey.