I am happy to report that since my initial post about my dance goal of accomplishing splits on both sides (initial post here), I have made TREMENDOUS strides!

I’m still a ways from completion of the goal but how exciting that I can visibly SEE the differences made in just two short months!!

Right split – in April the furthest I could get to was ~ 12 inches from the ground… But, now, I’m about 6 inches from the ground. OMG!

Left split – in April the furthest I could get to was ~ 6 inches from the ground… And now, I’m about 2 inches… yes that’s correct – 2 inches from the ground. Whoo-hoo!

I’m still astounded by my progress!  Though I’ll admit that it hasn’t been easy, quite painful in fact, as I attempt to convince my leg, groin, and hip muscles that getting into a split is possible at 42 (even though I haven’t been in one since my teen years!)…

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But in spite of the pain – little by little – improvement was made. Seeing myself make these physical gains has been quite encouraging… a great reminder that big things are accomplished by taking small steps on a consistent basis…

It reminds me that we Choose what Tomorrow looks like by the Choices we make TODAY!

I can’t wait to post my next update, as I anticipate continued GROWTH.

Life According to Me,

Dr. Donna

 

What God Sees for 2016! Happy New Year!

It was 4:48am in the morning and for reasons unbeknownst, I was WIDE – awake. No longer tired, so I just laid there. I then had the urge to hear the contemporary gospel song ‘It’s Not Over’ and then right after that I listened to the hit ‘It’s a New Season’. Both offer great reminders as we straddle the old year of 2015 and look towards the new year of 2016.

There were so many positive things that happened during 2015, but I must admit that there were moments of doubt. Moments where I questioned:

Can I really do that?

Will I reach the goal?

You see – I had made declarations over my life… Signs that would indicate to me, LIFE was once again flowing from within and all around me. I will be a bestselling author. I will be married (this time for the right reasons) and have biological children. I will take my dancing to the next level. I will have financial health. I will be a sought after motivational speaker. I will further sculpt and tone my body. My natural hair will grow back thicker and healthier.

Well, the jury is still out… I am still in the process of manifesting a few BIG dreams. But one thing I know FOR SURE, it definitely won’t happen if I don’t try. So 2016 is the year of BIG EFFORT! Trusting that all things are not only possible, but they are also new, in God!

God sees my future as limitless, and I’m finally starting to believe, Him! I wish that same vision for YOU!

May you start to believe, Just as God believes.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

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Life According to Me,

Dr. Donna

www.donnadoctora.com

Twitter: donnadoctora6

 

P.S.

If you missed my December 31st 2014 and January 1st 2015 posts, here they are:

https://donnadoctora.com/2014/12/30/forecast-for-2015-slow-steady-wins-the-race/

https://donnadoctora.com/2015/01/01/do-persist-in-2015/

“Persist with a heart full of gratefulness for what you’ve overcome (the past) and what you have yet to accomplish (your future)!” From Dr. Donna 

Discipline… it’s not a bad word.

I’ve always been a HUGE believer of the connection between the mind-body-spirit… However, this lesson hit very close to home when I found myself feeling lethargic, lackluster, and sad. It wasn’t until I took a B12 vitamin, upon the encouragement of my sister, that I found some of my usual vitality returning! This experience served as a great reminder that if you want to be healthy you have to tend to each area. The secret to health or the proverbial ‘fountain of youth’ is to achieve balance in mind, body, and spirit…

Even the Bible mentions the importance of mind-body-spirit:

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth (3 John 1:2)

So God is reminding us that health requires total body health. This sounds like such simple common sense, that you may even wonder why I’m writing about it…

Well, as we know, often the things that appear simple and common are often the most challenging!

To have total body health, we must be disciplined and being disciplined isn’t easy… because even if we can convince ourselves to get started on the path, it seems darn near impossible to sustain and stay the course…

So what shall you do?

You must FIRST start by disciplining your mind and then the rest becomes possible.

Here are a few tips to help you on the path to train your mind:

  • First identify a target – what is it that you’re desiring?
  • Next, visualize in your mind how you will feel once you’ve actually reached the goal
  • Finally, think of 2-3 really simple steps that you can begin immediately that will lead you in the direction of your goal

Remember it’s never too late to get in the habit of developing a disciplined mind!

I’ll leave you with a few useful quotes about discipline:

“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him” Buddha, A Buddhist sage

“We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment” Jim Rohn, Entrepreneur

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through” Zig Ziglar, Author/Motivational Speaker

Get Disciplined! Stop TRYING and choose to DO IT! Did-You-Know-760x760

YOU CAN!

Life According to Me,

Dr. Donna

www.donnadoctora.com

Twitter: donnadoctora6

Baby AFTER 40… Do you believe?

I am 40 and still intend to have biological children. That statement often garners me incredulous looks and an inane litany of questions that go something like this:

  • You STILL want to have children?
  • Why’d you wait so long?
  • When do you plan to do this?
  • You realize time is running out?
  • Doctors say your chances are slim after 40, so how are you going to have a baby?

And on and on the list goes…

In my younger years I would let the doubts, insecurities, and disbelief of others cloud my own visions, hopes, and dreams.

However, me being as comfortable as I am in my own skin now, has allowed me to believe in every single dream within my heart… And that means I trust in me, I trust in my body, and I trust in God’s plan for my life – so I guess that’s why I have faith that I shall be a midlife mommy 🙂

The irony of this entire situation is that while outdated research studies say I should be less fertile after 35, I actually feel and look healthier than I’ve ever been. I must add in the emphasis that the research is outdated; women are having babies post age 35, at increasing rates.

If you’re interested in reading more about the outdated research take a look: http://nypost.com/2013/09/28/outdated-studies-feed-false-panic-about-older-moms-to-be/old_pregnant

I share this story about my fertility journey, hoping that it might inspire you to believe in whatever it is you desire to birth or bring forth, whether it be a baby (like me) or some other new life journey!

The moment I stopped limiting my options to what was in front of my eyes, was the exact moment that I broadened my perspective and life began to unfold before me…

So here I sit on the cusp of birthing my first book as an author! Watching my professional speaking career flourish! And being able to complete a few must-do activities like flying trapeze!!

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I’m so EXCITED and THANKFUL for this season that I am in…

I am happy – I am healthy – and I am ready for that which is to come.

Life According to Me,

Dr. Donna

www.donnadoctora.com

Twitter: donnadoctora6

Nausea, Cramps, & Gas… Oh MY! Surviving Food Poisoning…

I have been sick with food poisoning for twenty-one LONG days! It’s been awful… I didn’t know which symptom was worse – my choices: fevers, stomach cramps, bloating, stomach pressure, nausea, and the minute-by-minute runs to the bathroom. NOT FUN! By the 16th day I was so OVER the whole experience and at my wits end! I didn’t know what else to do, in order to get well.

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I drank teas (peppermint & chamomile), drank cola, drank ginger ale, ate soup & crackers, ate rice, did a colon cleanse, and ate yogurt. Nothing seemed to do the trick. On day 16 I decided I would ignore the stomach cramps, and still do my weekly walk to the park. I read somewhere on the Internet that exercise is sometimes helpful for aiding stomach issues.

As I walked, initially I could barely stand up straight and forget taking note of the pretty day, I was just trying to get down the street without having an accident in my pants. However, I refused to quit and after a half-mile my muscles started to loosen and the walking seemed to ease some of the gas in my digestive system – Ah finally some relief! I could finally look up and take note of the lush greenery, pretty blue sky, and warm sun. It was a beautiful day.

After walking a mile, I decided to turn back and head on home. On the return walk home, I thought about how good this small window of freedom from my symptoms felt and I didn’t want to let this feeling go! I clutched by stomach and prayed “God please remove any and all foreign objects that do not belong.”

foodpoisoningTwo days after my walk I opted to do a second colon cleanse and I think it did the trick.

It caused me to spend two more days running to the bathroom but I think I finally got whatever didn’t belong inside of me, out of me…

Not sure what finally worked, maybe it was the combination of remedies, maybe it was my body running through the natural course of the poisoning, or maybe it was my little prayer to God.

It doesn’t really matter what lead to my healing, but something shifted inside of me in these last 21 days. I have a newfound appreciation for health and I NOW roll over thankful for it every day!

Two quotes that ran through my mind during those days of being doubled over in stomach, colon, and kidney pain and misery:

  • “Dear Jesus, do something.”
    Vladimir NabokovAuthor
  • “The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.”
    Søren Kierkegaard, Author

Life According to Me,

Dr. Donna

www.donnadoctora.com

Twitter: donnadoctora6

Battling your addiction(s)… What are you running/hiding from?

“I need a cigarette” complained the man sitting across from me, to his wife. What perplexed me about his request was that he said this amid a series of hacking coughs that seemed to be in sync with the hacking coughs of his wife! Why continue to smoke when it’s clear that it’s causing bodily harm?

The above reflection took place during a recent weekend trip traveling via a regional bus.

During my journey I ran into many other smokers. However, in the midst of me judging their addiction – I had to finally ask the question – aren’t we all addicted to something?

For some it’s cigarettes, others it’s alcohol, shopping, gambling, sex, porn, love, or even exercise. As humans we are constantly seeking for ways to fill ourselves up &/or to avoid facing whatever it is that we are running from in life!

Recently on my Facebook page I posted “No one and no earthly thing can fill me up. What a sobering and healthy thought to have! ‪#‎personalgrowth‬. That post was my public confession that I have finally arrived to an emotional, mental, and spiritual place in life where I no longer have to seek external things to avoid pain, to cope with sadness, to manage worry/stress, to redirect anger, or to chase away loneliness.

The author of the Untethered Soul, would suggest that my refusal to look outward for comfort was my decision “that [I no longer wanted] the weakest part of [me] running my life. He (Michael Singer) cautions that “if you don’t solve the root cause of the problem, but instead, attempt to protect yourself from the problem, it ends up running your life”.

So what will it take for you to finally go to the root of your addiction(s)? I know for me I had to hit rock bottom before I finally decided that I no longer wanted to be ruled by my addiction. Instead I found the courage to face my fears and go to the root of my discontent. I’ll admit that I made that decision while being racked by doubt and fear. But I refused to let that stop me, because I already saw the alternative; so I surmised – what do I have to lose?!

The gospel singer, William McDowell, states: “I’ve been changed, healed, freed, delivered… I’ve found joy, peace, grace, and favor… So, I won’t go back, can’t go back, to the way things used to be…” I share those lyrics hoping that you will ultimately make that same resolution for yourself.

Have the courage to battle your addiction (whatever it is), and give yourself a life where you truly are free! No more running… No more hiding…