Shed your Eeyore: Choose Happiness…

Sometimes I get into a contemplative mood and ponder – how can I attain happiness if I don’t have a template for what happiness looks like? In other words, if success begets success – then wouldn’t it make sense that happiness begets happiness?

Wouldn’t that then make happiness unattainable for those of us who weren’t born with “silver spoons in our mouths” and who have struggled and hit various “bumps on the road of life”? The pessimist in me wants to shout YES! I’m not entitled to happiness, what would give me the audacity to think that I was…

These sad or “woe is me” moments creep in at times, as if to remind me that I should never expect the awesome or impossible to occur for me. When I become overshadowed by the dark clouds of depression, I am reminded of the Eeyore character from Winnie the Pooh. I recall in a Winnie the Pooh episode, Eeyore lamenting “When stuck in the river, it is best to dive and swim to the bank yourself before someone drops a large stone on your chest in an attempt to hoosh you there.” I guess Eeyore figured that instead of waiting around for the inevitable to happen, why not take matters into his own hands…

Similar to Eeyore I too at times will reject the existence of the silver lining, attempting to find the ways to “cut my losses”. When I allow myself to sink into this pit of misery and despair, I must admit that it sometimes feels better to focus on the negative, because the negative is so familiar! On those days, finding happiness seems insurmountable!

However, from amidst a pit of despair, I find encouragement in the idea that it’s never too late and happiness is possible; even for the Eeyore in me!

In the book the Untethered Soul, Michael Singer writes that “everything will be okay as soon as you are okay with everything“. How is that possible? If it is the external environment that is causing my distress – how could everything be okay? Well… because I’ve come to understand that no matter what is happening on the outside, if we develop peace on the inside – all will be well…

I also find comfort in quotes such as this one by Heath Buckmaster which states: “Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.” This brought solace to my torment as it reminded me that I don’t need to become anyone else to find my happiness. I just need to be me…

So where does this leave me? Ultimately two messages resonate with me about attaining happiness:

1) Happiness is tangible and possible, when I learn to accept the me – I am in the process of becoming.

2) I have to be steadfast in my refusal to allow my past of pessimism to hinder my happiness in the now.

Happiness is truly a choice, one that we must consciously and proactively seek and protect from within…

4 thoughts on “Shed your Eeyore: Choose Happiness…

  1. depression symptoms says:

    Wow that was strange. I just wrote an incredibly long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t appear.
    Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyhow, just wanted to say great blog!

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    • docdonna6 says:

      Hello and thank you for reading! That is frustrating that your first message didn’t make it through, but thanks for deciding to send a second message. Come back again to read other entries.

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